The greatest gifts you can give your children are the roots of responsibility and the wings of independence.
When there has been any kind of adversity present in a person’s life it is extremely important that teachings are high and judgments are low. A lot of the times this is not the case in many areas, even, professional.
I’ve seen it so many times, people giving their negative opinion on something they have absolutely no clue about. Like, a person who works in a social care setting with addiction who has no real experience with the addiction. They may have a degree, but, it is not the same as having the experience and it doesn’t give that person the right to think they know more about that addiction, than the addict because lets face it, they don’t.
Every experience for an addict of any addiction is personal and for a person to think they can come in with no life experience and a degree to lay down the law on the matter and tell them what will work for them is bizarre.
A popular one of choice for drug addicts is the services and people working in them, telling the addicts they have to take full responsiblity for that addition even if there was childhood adversity. Now, this to me is such an irrational and irresponsible thing for a “qualified” person to say.
What that message then sends out to the person in need is, if a person was abused as a child and turned to addiction as an escape they have to take full responsibility for their actions ??? C’mon, telling people to take full responsibility even if it is not theirs in the first place. They are responsible for the addiction, when and only when, they become aware of that fact for themselves but, they are under no circumstances responsible for the challenges they met in childhood that led them there.
The caregivers,parents, guardians are 100 % responsible for the damage they may have inflicted consciously or unconsciously, whether emotional or any kinds of physical abuse. They didn’t meet the needs of the child which helped them take the wrong path.
I believe there is a huge misunderstanding of the methods being used, because it is so much easier to get on a high horse and dictate than it is, to stand side by side and teach patiently. People love control even when they are unaware they are doing it.
♥♥ Have a lovely day ♥♥
Written By Siobhan